Is it better to have kids early in life or later in life?

[OfTheCross]

Early being under 23. Later being over 36...




If you have them early by the time you're 40-45 you're pretty much just living for yourself...

If you have them late you can enjoy your life while you're young, tho...

Which way would you go?

 

[Greenhornet]

posted up for bad answers

 

[Da_Eggman]

Never

 

[Kasgoinjail]

When the time is right for You

By your standards i had mine early and people stopped inviting me out because they knew i would say no. I was exhausted i had 3 children in 4 years but now im sitting here like, in less than 10 years all my children will be out of secondary school (high school) whilst some of my friends will just be getting into the full swing of early morning school runs.

Its what floats your boat no right or wrong way to do it. Just make sure you love them regardless.

 

[Antwon Mitchell]

My mother and father had me when they were both 33 & 34 years old, respectively.

They had my two oldest sister while they were 28-29yrs old and my baby sister while they were 36-37yrs old.

I personally think having children in your late 20s and early-mid 30s is better than having one before you reached 25yrs old. My reasoning is because I believe you're more financially stable along with living conditions being settled.

There's a lot of people (not even close to 25yrs old) having babies before having their finances and living situation under control which sometimes causes a child to grow up in unstable circumstances.

That's just my opinion tho.

I plan to have children by 32yrs old. I'm only 27 now so there's plenty of time for me to make sure I have everything in order before bringing a child into this world.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Whatever works for you. I use to hate it that I had kids so young but now that Im older I glad I had them early. I couldnt imagine having to find babysitters and shyt right now.

 

[GoldenGlove]

Depends on the support system you have and who you are as a person.

For some, kids can push people to be better and strive for me... while others can have kids and have a realization that their life won't be the same again and become depressed.

I see pros and cons to both arguments. However, when I see people having their first kid at 35+, I go...

You gonna be drained. Whoever said, kids keep you young is a damn lie.

 

[HARLEM AL]

When the time is right for You

By your standards i had mine early and people stopped inviting me out because they knew i would say no. I was exhausted i had 3 children in 4 years but now im sitting here like, in less than 10 years all my children will be out of secondary school (high school) whilst some of my friends will just be getting into the full swing of early morning school runs.

Its what floats your boat no right or wrong way to do it. Just make sure you love them regardless.

Maaaaan Listen. All my friends hate my ass right now. All the jokes they had with me not being able to do nothing is dead. Now at 40 and about to be a empty nester(daugther 17 and son 20) im laughing at them struggling with all the activities they have to go to. All the ripping and running at a older Age lmaooo Yeah the killing me with the cash App shyt but shiiiiiiiiit. I could deal with that.

 

[African Peasant]

If you good financially, around 27-28 for a man is the best.

 

[Thanos]

forget an age, you need to have kids when you are stable enough to sustain it. People used to have better communities, so the burden of having them was less. Now, I deifnitely cosign having kids when you are financiallly stable. If shyt happens between now and then, you can always adopt.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

it's probably best when you have an actual family, and that usually comes when you are older.
too many people think they are too young to settle down in early 20's, well why bring a kid into that "i have the energy to keep up with them" doesn't seem to be the best logic lol. shorties can't eat your energy

 

[Kasgoinjail]

Maaaaan Listen. All my friends hate my ass right now. All the jokes they had with me not being able to do nothing is dead. Now at 40 and about to be a empty nester(daugther 17 and son 20) im laughing at them struggling with all the activities they have to go to. All the ripping and running at a older Age lmaooo Yeah the killing me with the cash App shyt but shiiiiiiiiit. I could deal with that.

Right and i honestly feel that me trying to be a mother and homemaker in my early 20's kept me out of so much fukkery and mayhem.
My partner was 6 years older and a bit more mature and wiser so that give me a sense of order in our house.

You also have way more energy for all the football games. After school activities and play dates.

My mum had me at 21 and my bro at 31 and she said she noticed a big change in her energy levels. 31 is still quite young too.

 

[Shadow King]

As a man, later. Take care of yourself and you don't have to worry about being to tired to play, how you'll look/feel by high school graduation, etc.

Being established >>> "Daddy's Gotta Have a Life Too" at 45

 

[BuckFilly]

36 too old

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

Had my first at 31, which is a good time if your financially stable with a good support system.

I couldn't imagine having them any younger or older. Just too much uncertainty in the world right now. I'd be hard pressed to have one socially and economically