SheWantTheD
Veteran
The worst of the worst, at least for LSA. I got pregnant by a man that I was in a purely casual relationship with, heavily low emphasis on the word relationship because we didn't talk a whole lot outside of our meetings.
We're both college educated and fairly intelligent people, except when it came to sex obviously. But we both took responsibility for our actions and have been cordial through the process. He came along to almost all of my appointments and bought even high ticket items before having a paternity test. He was present at the hospital for delivery, but my mom and sister insisted on being in the delivery room.
I didn't think too much of being a single mother until the baby actually arrived. Everyone around me assumed I was married, so it was weird, and it started to get to me. I was expected to present the baby on social media and all that, but I struggled much more with the reality of my situation than I expected. I wasn't so happy to make "arrival" posts anymore. I'm not sure that I'll ever get over having my child in such a non-traditional way. I'm the only one in my family to do anything like this, and no one expected that from ME of all people. I didn't expect that from myself, but it happened, because I couldn't go through with an abortion. Really I didn't even entertain the idea of it.
I'm from a fairly small town, and it made me nervous to think what people were saying about it, but it's not as if that kind of talk would ever get to my ears, as it hasn't so far. My mother shamed me at times as she can't fathom the idea that casual sex even exists. She insists that I did this on purpose and keeps "accusing" me of loving the man, which annoys me so much. I understand in her mind that you don't have sex with someone unless you love them but oh well. I find it incredibly ironic you know, that I thought I was taking the moral step-above (I'd rather not use the term "high ground") by not aborting, but my child is forever physical evidence of "sleeping around" when I know my body count is nowhere near some people's. I'd still be some kind of angel in the perception of others if I had eliminated my pregnancy.
In the end, my side of the family and the father's side of the family (extended and all) are crazy about our little one who is well taken care of. Not many children in single parent homes have that, even some children in two-parent homes don't have that. I'm incredibly grateful for that.
This woman gets pregnant by a man she was in a casual relationship with, which whom the only time they spent together was sex. No condoms, plan b, abortion nothing. Purposely bring a child into a single parent household.
This woman is retarded. Raising a child is no easy feat, especially alone. All the freedoms she had before she ain't gonna have them anymore. She's more worried about how people will feel about her being a single mother versus the fact that she's bringing her child into a fukked up situation.
What is she going to tell her child when they ask where Daddy is and why Mommy and Daddy aren't together? "Oh we were just having sex irresponsibly and it wasn't serious but we still had you anyway".
And she probably curved a bunch of genuine good men who would commit to her for a dude that just sees her as someone to have sex with. She's going to go to these same men and expect them to marry her and put in work even though she's a single mother smh.
