I took @TheStrippers advice today and...

[BrothaZay]

it worked

100%

long story short girl im talkn to was posed to come home on saturday to see me. yesterday she called me and said "im not comin home bae, i wanna party wit my friends one last time"

the old zay wouldve said "its ok baby i understand, im not mad"

but then i thought bacc to what @TheStripper said and was like " i dont got time for this, u either comin or u not im goin to bed "

she hit me up just right now "so the plans got changed im comin out there after all

@OG_StankBrefs

I think MOST men (and women) lack confidence. I think a lot of people (women and men) confuse that with being a "bad boy." You can still be a nice guy who is confident. Most people confuse confidence with arrogance.

Confidence is knowing what you want and how you want to be treated and sticking to it. "Nice guys" lose b/c the have no follow through. When you compromise what you want women automatically lose respect for you and vice versa. You don't have to be mean or an ass about it.

For example, one of my good friends is a bit...ruff around of the edges. He has a good heart but he doesn't have a lot of patience and quick to pop off on people. We don't have that problem because I nipped it in the bud from jump. The first time he tried me he invited me to this club. When I got there he started acting funny like he didn't invite me. So I left the drink he bought me on the table, stood up and walked out. No yelling, no screaming, no confrontation what so ever. He calls me about 10 minutes asking what happened. I told him that we had a miss understanding and that I did not like the way I was being treated. He was dumbfounded and apologized profusely. 2 years later we are the best of friends and he hasn't even come close to doing that again. He even talks to me in softer voice than he does everyone else. Had I sat there and allowed him to be an ass I would have continued to be treated poorly.

Confidence has nothing to do with demeanor. Again, it is knowing what you want and how you want to be treated and having the follow through to leave a situation/relationship/whatever that does not meet your standard.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Good for you sweetheart. Set the pace and they will get in step.

 

[Diondon]

So basically, you stopped being a spineless simp? I'll drink to that.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Most women will turn their backs on their friends for a man but its better she spend time building a relationship with her future husband then in a devils box partying with demons.

 

[BrothaZay]

So basically, you stopped being a spineless simp? I'll drink to that.

what u gone drink

 

[Diondon]

what u gone drink

Mollywatr

 

[mrken12]

You get an L for taking a stripper's advice on anything.

 

[BrothaZay]

Most women will turn their backs on their friends for a man but its better she spend time building a relationship with her future husband then in a devils box partying with demons.

No telling what she would've been getting into, friend.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

No telling what she would've been getting into, friend.

You KNOW! It makes me so upset when a woman i was dating revealed to me her proclivity for the night life and witching hours. Theres more to see during the day so why are you out with demons at night. Theres only demonic intent past 10pm. I feel you've done the right thing. She clearly wants to be saved, from herself, friend.

 

[Super Ramon]

You get an L for taking ****'s advice on anything.

Fixed

 

[Torrential]

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Honestly I think a lot of people have this "fukk the member of the opposite attitude" after they deal with enough bad behavior. This attitude is ultimately detrimental to that person and the future relationships that they will develop. Baggage is no one's friend.

The attitude should be "fukk bad behavior." When you decide bad behavior won't be in your life then you 1. Eliminate people who only know how to operate on a dysfunctional level 2. Get the treatment you deserve aka the best of people 3. Don't end up bitter or angry so that you are in a good emotional state when a good/right/positive relationship comes into your life.

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

fukk you keep dialin mah number for phaggit? I don't giva fukk bout you or your disposable life. FOH wit dis shyt.

 

[ThugLife]

Good for you sweetheart. Set the pace and they will get in step.

Is your ass fat or nah

 

[Batz]

I think MOST men (and women) lack confidence. I think a lot of people (women and men) confuse that with being a "bad boy." You can still be a nice guy who is confident. Most people confuse confidence with arrogance.

Confidence is knowing what you want and how you want to be treated and sticking to it. "Nice guys" lose b/c the have no follow through. When you compromise what you want women automatically lose respect for you and vice versa. You don't have to be mean or an ass about it.

For example, one of my good friends is a bit...ruff around of the edges. He has a good heart but he doesn't have a lot of patience and quick to pop off on people. We don't have that problem because I nipped it in the bud from jump. The first time he tried me he invited me to this club. When I got there he started acting funny like he didn't invite me. So I left the drink he bought me on the table, stood up and walked out. No yelling, no screaming, no confrontation what so ever. He calls me about 10 minutes asking what happened. I told him that we had a miss understanding and that I did not like the way I was being treated. He was dumbfounded and apologized profusely. 2 years later we are the best of friends and he hasn't even come close to doing that again. He even talks to me in softer voice than he does everyone else. Had I sat there and allowed him to be an ass I would have continued to be treated poorly.

Confidence has nothing to do with demeanor. Again, it is knowing what you want and how you want to be treated and having the follow through to leave a situation/relationship/whatever that does not meet your standard.