I have a sex-related question, ladies :lupe:

[PlainSight]

I was thinking about the kinds of girls I've attracted, and consequently been attracted to - and since I was about 20, one common theme in all of them is that they've all told me (and in few couple cases, shown me) that they are really into rough sex. From the shy ones to the outgoing ones.

My question - is it a LOT of girls that like it rough, or is it just me attracting them for whatever reason? Is it your thing?

I don't mind at all, but it's still funny - I don't know why

 

[Paradise]

Maybe its just you. I don't necessarily like rough sex. I like a little hair pulling and ass smacking every once and a while. I once dated a person that wanted to choke me during sex. He said it helped his last girlfriend have a more intense orgasm. Needless to say it didn't happen.

 

[M'gann]

How rough are we talking?
50 shades rough?

 

[PlainSight]

How rough are we talking?
50 shades rough?

It varies - I've been with 2 women. One was into being tied up/spanked and confided that she had a forced sex fantasy, the other - whom I had the most time with - was just "anything goes". I did all kinds of stuff with her, that I never thought I'd be doing with a girl. They'd prefer harder/faster strokes more often than not aswell.

The other girls were girls where I could have been intimate with them - they were quite open with their likes and dislikes because I wasn't judgmental about sex at all. It would vary quite wildly with them too. Some liked little things like hair-pulling, choking, light bondage - others were a bit more out-there (simulated forced sex, shibari, forced orgasm play etc).

I asked my FWB who I lost my virginity to, she said it's because I seem innocent but that I can be corrupted into being rougher in the bedroom.

 

[bcrusaderw]

It varies - I've been with 2 women. One was into being tied up/spanked and confided that she had a forced sex fantasy, the other - whom I had the most time with - was just "anything goes". I did all kinds of stuff with her, that I never thought I'd be doing with a girl. They'd prefer harder/faster strokes more often than not aswell.

The other girls were girls where I could have been intimate with them - they were quite open with their likes and dislikes because I wasn't judgmental about sex at all. It would vary quite wildly with them too. Some liked little things like hair-pulling, choking, light bondage - others were a bit more out-there (simulated forced sex, shibari, forced orgasm play etc).

I asked my FWB who I lost my virginity to, she said it's because I seem innocent but that I can be corrupted into being rougher in the bedroom.

What is that?

 

[CinnaSlim]

I think roungh sex is just exciting and gets your adrenaline flowing. Especially when you don't know what to expect, it's just spontaneous. You can get flipped, spanked, whatever. It's just fun.

Making love can be deep and intense. I don't think its something to do every time.

Then you can always spice things up by switching things up or trying something new.

Choking was never big for me, it doesn't do much. I think because guys are afraid of being too rough on me because I'm small. I think most of the excitement comes from power play. I can breathe comfortably and still get the same effect if he just grabs my jaw and/or puts a finger in my mouth.

 

[M'gann]

My question - is it a LOT of girls that like it rough, or is it just me attracting them for whatever reason? Is it your thing?

It varies - I've been with 2 women. One was into being tied up/spanked and confided that she had a forced sex fantasy, the other - whom I had the most time with - was just "anything goes". I did all kinds of stuff with her, that I never thought I'd be doing with a girl. They'd prefer harder/faster strokes more often than not aswell.

The other girls were girls where I could have been intimate with them - they were quite open with their likes and dislikes because I wasn't judgmental about sex at all. It would vary quite wildly with them too. Some liked little things like hair-pulling, choking, light bondage - others were a bit more out-there (simulated forced sex, shibari, forced orgasm play etc).

I asked my FWB who I lost my virginity to, she said it's because I seem innocent but that I can be corrupted into being rougher in the bedroom.

To answer your question, I enjoy rough sex but to a certain degree. I don't mind hair pulling, spanking, or rope playing but I cross the line at choking or anything forced.

It also depends on the mood, time, and place.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Corrupting people is fun lol. It's something about getting them to open up and having them confine in you what their inner desires are. And also the whole trying new things bit. Or teaching them new tricks. I think most things have to do with power dynamics.

 

[PlainSight]

What is that?

Shibari is Japanese Rope bondage. Google if you must. Never did it, probably never will.

Forced orgasm play is something I actually tried, and I'm sure I've mentioned it in a post. Basically, I just tied the girl's hands and feet, took a Hitachi wand and engaged in a little orgasm denial before making her cum several times in a row. Since I had total control, I could continue stimulation even immediately after orgasm and make her have another. We had safe-words and everything in case she was too sensitive .

Not sure I'd want to do that all the time though, some good, hard vanilla is just fine for me.

To answer your question, I enjoy rough sex but to a certain degree. I don't mind hair pulling, spanking, or rope playing but I cross the line at choking or anything forced.

It also depends on the mood, time, and place.

I would speculate that most women probably align more with this. And definitely depends on other factors, as you said.

Corrupting people is fun lol. It's something about getting them to open up and having them confine in you what their inner desires are. And also the whole trying new things bit. Or teaching them new tricks. I think most things have to do with power dynamics.

I got corrupted badly . I was a very late bloomer so I was pretty much a blank slate. Before long, I was doing shyt I'd only ever seen in Rocco pornos . It was fun trying new things though. But I doubt the stuff I did would fly with most girls in bed. But you're absolutely right, power dynamics are prevalent in most things, particularly sex and relationships.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Shibari is Japanese Rope bondage. Google if you must. Never did it, probably never will.

Forced orgasm play is something I actually tried, and I'm sure I've mentioned it in a post. Basically, I just tied the girl's hands and feet, took a Hitachi wand and engaged in a little orgasm denial before making her cum several times in a row. Since I had total control, I could continue stimulation even immediately after orgasm and make her have another. We had safe-words and everything in case she was too sensitive .

Not sure I'd want to do that all the time though, some good, hard vanilla is just fine for me.


I would speculate that most women probably align more with this. And definitely depends on other factors, as you said.



I got corrupted badly . I was a very late bloomer so I was pretty much a blank slate. Before long, I was doing shyt I'd only ever seen in Rocco pornos . It was fun trying new things though. But I doubt the stuff I did would fly with most girls in bed. But you're absolutely right, power dynamics are prevalent in most things, particularly sex and relationships.

 

[MoonGoddess]

What is that?

You be killing me
Girl i hope you meet a man that can tap into that freaky sexual nature that i get from you.

 

[bcrusaderw]

You be killing me
Girl i hope you meet a man that can tap into that freaky sexual nature that i get from you.

What you talking about, girl?

 

[MoonGoddess]

What you talking about, girl?

I just get that vibe from you in sexual threads. I can tell that altho you think you need to be in control, i think in the bedroom you might be more satisfied with your man holding the reins or rather the ropes

 

[bcrusaderw]

I just get that vibe from you in sexual threads. I can tell that altho you think you need to be in control, i think in the bedroom you might be more satisfied with your man holding the reins or rather the ropes

 

[bcrusaderw]

I just get that vibe from you in sexual threads. I can tell that altho you think you need to be in control, i think in the bedroom you might be more satisfied with your man holding the reins or rather the ropes

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