I don't think we(Blacks) should whip our children...

[George Gooney]

Now let me start by saying I'm not here to judge the parenting skills of others(especially when I don't have any kids yet). But I feel that physical punishment is an outdated, archaic, slightly barbaric style of discipline. I was food shopping the other day and saw the classic scenario of a little white child throwing a tantrum because it's mother wouldn't buy it the batman themed fruit snacks it wanted. I then began thinking about how we often ostracize and laugh at whites for not whipping their bad ass children when they're acting up. Later on a movie about slavery came on and it showed a young black brothah being savagely beaten by an oppressive cac regime...And then it hit me So cacs don't whip their own children but have no problem laying flesh peeling welps to the flesh of other human beings under the guise of "discipline"??? And Yet I believe it's from these very same oppressors, that we've learned to whip each other when we want to be obeyed. Almost every black on this site I'm sure can name a time when they got their ass whipped badly for something they've done as a child. I can attest to this. But where has that form of discipline gotten us as a people in this society? Has it really helped as much as we think it has? Or is it time we do away with all negative ideaology we have acquired from our oppressors???

FOOD FOR THOUGHT. YOU DO THE DISHES...

 

[Ricky Church]

I ain't read all that. I'm beating the hell outta my kids when they fukk up.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

That's true, but who are you to tell me how to raise my kids?

 

[DaChampIsHere]

I'm a firm believer in "whoopings" being one of the main reasons a lot of black people grow unafraid of resulting to violence so quickly, instead of logically explaining why certain actions are wrong and right and talking things out, the concept of pain is used to teach instead of explanation.

My parents did not whip me and I will not whip my kids.

 

[George Gooney]

I ain't read all that. I'm beating the hell outta my kids when they fukk up.

John Stamos would've read it...

That's true, but who are you to tell me how to raise my kids?

Did you read the first sentence you dumb ass nikka???

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

That's true, but who are you to tell me how to raise my kids?

It takes a village, I don't know when community was lost in the raising of Black children, but we should really get back to that.

fukk that Well...I'm the parent shyt. If you don't know something and someone does its wise to seek council or at the very least ponder their idea.

 

[Wildin]

Whipping out of anger doesn't teach any lessons and are a majority reason why kids are whipped. She spilled the milk(accidently) and because your pissed that you gotta wipe it up your gonna whoop her? Now you got to clean up spilled milk and a crying baby.....

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

Whipping out of anger doesn't teach any lessons and are a majority reason why kids are whipped. She spilled the milk(accidently) and because your pissed that you gotta wipe it up your gonna whoop her? Now you got to clean up spilled milk and a crying baby.....

And then there is THIS. I'm almost certain I've gotten a few, of those the gas bill high as shyt, my boss pissed me off earlier today, I had to buy a new set of tires etc...Ass whoopings, where the littlest thing I did set my Mom/Pop off. I'm sure I'm not the only one either. Don't get me wrong it wasn't an everyday thing. But It's happened, and its certainly something I'd try to avoid with my children.

 

[cleanface coney]

should never ever hit girls...point blank period....esp after a certain age

you might have to cave in that chest a couple times wit ya son

but honestly i agree with this thread

 

[Wildin]

I understand the the whooping rationale of "I told him 3 times to clean his room/pick up his clothes and he didnt listen to me, there are repercussions for not listening to me"

for the future that doesnt motivate the child to clean his room, just makes him afraid of his father/mother. Although some people would say the fear of getting their ass whooped would make them clean their room...we think this now and its not until we're much older that we can weigh the pros and cons analytically. Like "honestly if i start now it will take me 5-10 mins to put all the toys away and the clothes where they belong. if I dont do it dads gonna yell at me, and whoop me and its gonna hurt then id have to do it anyway and i wont get to go play afterwards..yea i might as well clean now...." 7 year olds dont think like that

 

[Jayson_bourn]

I got the belt when I did wrong things but I grew up in a different era.

I don't really feel any type of ways about it. When I did get the belt I knew when and I knew why. It wasn't like my dad came home drunk and decided to do that. It was always because of my poor decisions and lies. I can say though that I got whoopings and normally had things taken away from me (gameboy, outside play, bike, etc). It wasn't the whoopings that changed my behavior it was the other punishments.

I remember one year I got very bad grades in school so my mom and dad decided to restrict friend visits and playing outside for the entire year. Including the summer.... on top of that they said IF you get good grades you can play first and do HW when you get home. It was a very strong motivator to do well in school and obey the rules.

I guess I responded well to the idea of knowing i have a good situation and knowing that if I don't act right it can all go away.


Not every kid will respond to that but it worked for me


My aunt is currently using Lebrons, Jordans, and all technology against my little cousin. He fuks up she takes them away and he has to wear bummy gear to school with no cellphone pc. shes's got this little dude behaving like a disciplined marine

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

It takes a village, I don't know when community was lost in the raising of Black children, but we should really get back to that.

fukk that Well...I'm the parent shyt. If you don't know something and someone does its wise to seek council or at the very least ponder their idea.

I don't think community was lost, or at least for me when I was growing up.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

as a mother of two grown sons, its a necessary evil that shouldnt be abused or it will become uneffective. i only had to whip my boys for major offenses. which wasnt very often thankfully.

 

[Remote]

Hitting kids only works as long as they fear getting hit.
Once that's gone, then they have no reason to respect you or listen to you.

Reminds me of this thing from Goodfellas:

"But after a while he was mostly pissed because I hung out around the cab stand. He knew what went on at that cab stand. And every once in a while, I'd have to take a beating. But by then I didn't care. The way I saw it, everybody takes a beating sometime."

 

[Jparker]

I got beat. So my child getting beat

The circle of black hate continues