How do you handle your fat friends?

[jilla82]

How often do you tell them they need to lose weight?

My closest friend has always been a big dude...but he's gotten way out of hand...he has to be 400+ pounds.

He lives in a different state, and I recently spent a couple of days at his house.
I can hear him breathing when he's sitting on the couch....his stomach hangs under his shirt...

Ive never actually seen how a big fat person eats...I thought I ate a lot...but they take it to another level.
Im talking two dinners...eating a bunch of shyt while cooking...its non stop.

Were in our late 30's...if buddy keeps this up, he'll be dead within a few years.

Im thinking he doesnt actually realize how he looks...
...am im doing too much by being 100% honest with him?

Looking at him irks the fukk out of me...im thinking of telling him flat out "bro youre super fat, if you dont lose weight youre going to be dead".

 

[The ADD]

How often do you tell them they need to lose weight?

My closest friend has always been a big dude...but he's gotten way out of hand...he has to be 400+ pounds.

He lives in a different state, and I recently spent a couple of days at his house.
I can hear him breathing when he's sitting on the couch....his stomach hangs under his shirt...

Ive never actually seen how a big fat person eats...I thought I ate a lot...but they take it to another level.
Im talking two dinners...eating a bunch of shyt while cooking...its non stop.

Were in our late 30's...if buddy keeps this up, he'll be dead within a few years.

Im thinking he doesnt actually realize how he looks...
...am im doing too much by being 100% honest with him?

Looking at him irks the fukk out of me...im thinking of telling him flat out "bro youre super fat, if you dont lose weight youre going to be dead".

Was he always big?

 

[BornStar]

I try not to be the preacher or judgmental type I let them be.

But i will say fat shaming works

 

[jilla82]

Was he always big?

yeah...but not this damn big.
He could ride a bike and walk around the city with me.

Now...I can hear him breathing hard walking to the car in a parking lot.

He lost like 100lbs last year when his doctor told him shyt is real...
...but then gained it back and more.

 

[The ADD]

yeah...but not this damn big.
He could ride a bike and walk around the city with me.

Now...I can hear him breathing hard walking to the car in a parking lot.

He lost like 100lbs last year when his doctor told him shyt is real...
...but then gained it back and more.

I’d say something

If he’s already got a doctors warning I think you should

 

[Son Goku]

I don't befriend fat people.




True story.

 

[BornStar]

I don't befriend fat people.




True story.

What do you do if they are in your family?

 

[Son Goku]

What do you do if they are in your family?

I let all the folks in my family cook (literally).

 

[Pacni99a12]

I don't think scaring the brother will work. Something is going on physically and\or mentally. You can bring it up once, but nagging over it won't help. I know he lives in a different state, but best thing you can do is offer to go to the gym with him a few times. That we he gets to hang with you and he can get comfortable with it and get in the habit. Who knows he may get hooked. Some dude from work used to bug me about hitting the gym with him. I finally went and was addicted to that shyt.

 

[360dagod]

Homeboy might be depressed

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Try a health and taking care of yourself angle instead of just "losing weight".

 

[desjardins]

Fat people know they're fat. He'll probably get defensive if you come at him directly. Maybe try to do things incognito like randomly suggest going for walks or come thru with a bean salad or something

 

[Another Man]

 

[Mindfield333]

Diet > gym.

he needs to at least start with some simple replacements like his sodas & juice with water and sweets with fruit.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

Anytime they talk just say shut yo fat ass up