Honest woman's opinion about my situation

[I AM WE ARE]

Been dating this woman for 5+ months now, only a hand full of "arguments"but last week we had one cause we made plans to spend the weekend together but she cancelled to go to a lounge with her girls. I gave her the silent treatment that night but next day checked on her, she went out that Friday but since the argument we haven't spent time and we talk less. Yet she says she still loves me, etc but doesn't know what she wants to do about us. She gets fighting mad if I ask if it's someone else. One moment she saying she wants to make it work then the next, she's distant. Ladies,what's going on?

 

[Rekorb]

All this after 5 months. She is working on her exit strategy.

It seems like you being too much and too extra with it actually.

 

[I AM WE ARE]

All this after 5 months. She is working on her exit strategy.

It seems like you being too much and too extra with it actually.

Just let it go huh

 

[The5thLetter]

She's unsure abt the rship and is playing games as a result. 5 months should still be the honeymoon phase and yall r arguing, fighting and suspicions of cheating r coming up? yea she needs to be bushed, but that's prob what she's tryna get u to do anyway

 

[Rekorb]

Just let it go huh

No, I just think 5 months you just getting your feet wet.

Things are getting too intense to only be dating for 5 months. Slow it down.

 

[I AM WE ARE]

She's unsure abt the rship and is playing games as a result. 5 months should still be the honeymoon phase and yall r arguing, fighting and suspicions of cheating r coming up? yea she needs to be bushed, but that's prob what she's tryna get u to do anyway

We only had 2/3 arguments tbh we've never had a real"fight"
I think that's what she wants as well

 

[The5thLetter]

We only had 2/3 arguments tbh we've never had a real"fight"
I think that's what she wants as well

u had plans for the weekend and she cancelled for 1 night at a lounge? and she didn't hit u up or come over after? How old is she? and have u asked why she's distant?

 

[I AM WE ARE]

u had plans for the weekend and she cancelled for 1 night at a lounge? and she didn't hit u up or come over after? How old is she? and have u asked why she's distant?

38 and yes she says she's scared because she's been hurt before

 

[Rekorb]

We only had 2/3 arguments tbh we've never had a real"fight"
I think that's what she wants as well

You said "Yet she says she still loves me, etc but doesn't know what she wants to do about us."

So...might as well chill with her if she still wants to be around. You really can only go off people's action, don't do mental gymnastics trying to get into people's head just go off their movements. If you can do something this weekend that's a good sign, don't add too much into the mix now.

 

[I AM WE ARE]

You said "Yet she says she still loves me, etc but doesn't know what she wants to do about us."

So...might as well chill with her if she still wants to be around. You really can only go off people's action, don't do mental gymnastics trying to get into people's head just go off their movements. If you can do something this weekend that's a good sign, don't add too much into the mix now.

So if she declines again to spend time, let her go?

 

[The5thLetter]

38 and yes she says she's scared because she's been hurt before

Wish you luck. It's tough dating someone with baggage. do what u feel makes the most sense for the both of u

 

[Rekorb]

So if she declines again to spend time, let her go?

No.

But there has to be less talking, more action, more doing. Having hearts-to-hearts are too tricky and usual not worth it in most cases.

Hopefully you can Netflix and chill.

 

[WaveGang]

You sound like a cuck


Tell her that shyt ain't cool that shyt don't fly... Now you gotta get your social circle popping and put her 3rd behind this money and your friends. Certain chicks the only way to get is to treat em like ass wholes

 

[I AM WE ARE]

You sound like a cuck


Tell her that shyt ain't cool that shyt don't fly... Now you gotta get your social circle popping and put her 3rd behind this money and your friends. Certain chicks the only way to get is to treat em like ass wholes

If I gotta do that I don't want her, I'm 37 ain't got time for high school b.s.

 

[WaveGang]

If I gotta do that I don't want her, I'm 37 ain't got time for high school b.s.

Well block her then on just freeze her out for 3 weeks.


In my opinion you'll never have this one. Charge it to the game