Getting your significant other to workout with you tips

[Germms]

Trying to get my girlfriend to workout with me is hard af. She’s getting big in the right places but the wrong places too. Nothing critical but it can spiral fast ya know. I just think health is wealth in a relationship. If one of you is off, shyt goes south for MANY REASONS. She claims she was in the gym heavy before but her habits say otherwise. If she just goes to the gym with me 3 times a week at least she’d be killin it. Idk how to get her to come. Every time I ask it’s

“what are we doing?”

I say “cardio 25-35 minutes and abs” that’s just what I do in the mornings.

She hit me with the “fukk no”

I be like “haha ok” But on the inside I’m like

Now I’m not on her ass possessively making her weigh in and shyt but I do glance at that scale when she does it in front of me I just don’t say anything or act like it matters because weight is a sensitive topic to women.

I got her diet in check for dinner because I cook most of the time but breakfast and lunch idk what she does. I feel like she’s sneaking fast food on lunch because shyt isn’t adding up.BUT I’m not checkin her I just pay attention from a distance.

What are some creative ways to get ya chick to get in there?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Look at what clothes she’s wearing on the regular, check the size and buy one a size down. Tell her you checked in her closet to make sure you go the right size (she likely has clothes in there she can’t fit) offer to go back and get a bigger size. That might wake her up.

But quite honestly I’ve always found hair is the big workout issue for black women, is she’s a straight hair girl or doesn’t rotate braids into the mix, well good luck with that

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Just tell her she's getting fat. Damn. All the "tips" this and that. Just be honest.

 

[bill riser]

Just tell her she's getting fat. Damn. All the "tips" this and that. Just be honest.

Just be honest she says.

no disrespect but most women i've come across, NOT ALL, cant handle that level of honesty. telling her "she's fat" is practically begging for a huge argument.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Just be honest she says.

no disrespect but most women i've come across, NOT ALL, cant handle that level of honesty. telling her "she's fat" is practically begging for a huge argument.

It you keep beating around the bush she'll never get it. You can be nice about it.

 

[Germms]

Just tell her she's getting fat. Damn. All the "tips" this and that. Just be honest.

I'm guessing you're a woman that is self-aware so you probably get yourself together with no problems. I believe my woman is self-aware but the work ethic to improve needs a spark. Me telling her she's fat will bring out an insecure response and it will leave a permanent bullet of discontent. Every argument that shyt will be brought up. I know from my last chick.

 

[bill riser]

'm guessing you're a woman that is self-aware so you probably get yourself together with no problems. I believe my woman is self-aware but the work ethic to improve needs a spark. Me telling her she's fat will bring out an insecure response and it will leave a permanent bullet of discontent. Every argument that shyt will be brought up. I know from my last chick.

This right here. I get what @BlackPearl The Empress is saying but I've noticed in my 34 years of living that if you tell women the truth, AGAIN NOT ALL, no matter how gently or respectively said it will always come back to haunt you. In my experience it always seem to be in a passive aggressive manner.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I'm guessing you're a woman that is self-aware so you probably get yourself together with no problems. I believe my woman is self-aware but the work ethic to improve needs a spark. Me telling her she's fat will bring out an insecure response and it will leave a permanent bullet of discontent. Every argument that shyt will be brought up. I know from my last chick.

That’s why I suggested the clothes, sometimes you gotta “make it real” how much weight someone has gained

 

[Germms]

That’s why I suggested the clothes, sometimes you gotta “make it real” how much weight someone has gained

Plan already in motion. Thank you. Let’s see how it goes though.

 

[wire28]

Just tell her she's getting fat. Damn. All the "tips" this and that. Just be honest.

*one week later*

"guys my significant other and i broke up, where do i go from here?"

 

[dc007]

I think the direct approach is best....just tell her she's gained weight and you need her to commit to staying in a certain range. If she don't care enough to at least do that then you can just drop her

This only works if you have a gains yourself. If you out here looking average she goin give you the

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Trying to get my girlfriend to workout with me is hard af. She’s getting big in the right places but the wrong places too. Nothing critical but it can spiral fast ya know. I just think health is wealth in a relationship. If one of you is off, shyt goes south for MANY REASONS. She claims she was in the gym heavy before but her habits say otherwise. If she just goes to the gym with me 3 times a week at least she’d be killin it. Idk how to get her to come. Every time I ask it’s

“what are we doing?”

I say “cardio 25-35 minutes and abs” that’s just what I do in the mornings.

She hit me with the “fukk no”

I be like “haha ok” But on the inside I’m like

Now I’m not on her ass possessively making her weigh in and shyt but I do glance at that scale when she does it in front of me I just don’t say anything or act like it matters because weight is a sensitive topic to women.

I got her diet in check for dinner because I cook most of the time but breakfast and lunch idk what she does. I feel like she’s sneaking fast food on lunch because shyt isn’t adding up.BUT I’m not checkin her I just pay attention from a distance.

What are some creative ways to get ya chick to get in there?

Have a talk with her about health and weight. Tell her being active with ur partner is a way to bond and ensure ya’ll both live a long and healthy life. Let her know it’s important for u and anybody you are going to be with.

Cut thru that body positive nonsense and tell her the body is made to move. Also do stuff other than the gym. She might not like weights or treadmills but long walks, hiking might be more her speed.
Tell her that you guys being active together is an important vision you have for ur relationship. She might not comply at first.
But keep telling her. Keep offering consistently. Reinforce any approximations of her moving toward the goal with shyt she loves.

Start planning events around activities too. Hanging out with active couples, group bike rides. All kinds of shyt.

 

[13473]

If she respects your input I don't see y u have to jump thru hoops n sugarcoat things. Definitely don't be an a$$hole about it but do be honest. She might be upset at first them come around

THis "health" or gym invitations stuff probably goes right over her head.

Also Maybe gym not her thing. More ways to be active than just in a gym

 

[Strapped]

It's hard to get them to exercise, exercising when your young helps strengthens your muscles & bones so you'll move around better when you get old

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I'm guessing you're a woman that is self-aware so you probably get yourself together with no problems. I believe my woman is self-aware but the work ethic to improve needs a spark. Me telling her she's fat will bring out an insecure response and it will leave a permanent bullet of discontent. Every argument that shyt will be brought up. I know from my last chick.

This right here. I get what @BlackPearl The Empress is saying but I've noticed in my 34 years of living that if you tell women the truth, AGAIN NOT ALL, no matter how gently or respectively said it will always come back to haunt you. In my experience it always seem to be in a passive aggressive manner.

*one week later*

"guys my significant other and i broke up, where do i go from here?"

Ya'll are probably right. You gotta be sensitive to the person you're dealing with but I'll be damn if my body looks damn near perfect and I gotta psychologically manipulate you into looking good. Nah slim tighten up.