Fellas with kids do yall get mad when ur child's mother new man is being friendly to the kid?

[Brandon M.]

i got this girl , she's my friend, close friend... Sometimes im over at her house playing around with her kid on this

or we're racing cars on this

u know just having fun. The pops comes to pick his son up , he seen this a couple times. Am I wrong? Im just being friendly , I could be an ass and just kiss on the kid's mother while he's there watching but i dont. Instead i wait for the pops to come get his kid then we fool around or whatever.


Im happy i put a ring on my child's momma. I aint gotta see shyt like this or think about it

 

[Raava]

No parent likes to see that, when parents are separated. With men it's worse. I don't think you are wrong per-say. I don't understand why you are around the kid though. Why can't she just wait till the dad gets his son for you to be around? Sex changes the dynamic.

 

[King Poetic]

Since i fukk alot of baby mama's

majority of the time the nikka is long gone or don't even give a fukk about there kid

 

[mortuus est]

Well im sure you've seen those threads about kids being beat up bad by their mothers boyfriends

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

i got this girl , she's my friend, close friend... Sometimes im over at her house playing around with her kid on this

or we're racing cars on this

u know just having fun. The pops comes to pick his son up , he seen this a couple times. Am I wrong? Im just being friendly , I could be an ass and just kiss on the kid's mother while he's there watching but i dont. Instead i wait for the pops to come get his kid then we fool around or whatever.


Im happy i put a ring on my child's momma. I aint gotta see shyt like this or think about it

Your doing the right thing bruh. Seems like dude is too. Lot of nikkas wanna be deadbeats and then act tough when another nikka actually show there kids some attention. As long as he's man about it and you stay in your lane its all good.

 

[Brandon M.]

No parent likes to see that, when parents are separated. With men it's worse. I don't think you are wrong per-say. I don't understand why you are around the kid though. Why can't she just wait till the dad gets his son for you to be around? Sex changes the dynamic.

perfect example...she tells me to come over at 3 today....her sons father was supposed to pick him at 2:30. I ended up coming to her house late , 3:30 and her son was still there. So thats how i ended up being around him. Im not gonna sit outside in my car like a creep. She works at a hospital on the late shift and i work morning to early afternoon. So we meet when schedules permits

 

[Raava]

perfect example...she tells me to come over at 3 today....her sons father was supposed to pick him at 2:30. I ended up coming to her house late , 3:30 and her son was still there. So thats how i ended up being around him. Im not gonna sit outside in my car like a creep. She works at a hospital on the late shift and i work morning to early afternoon. So we meet when schedules permits

She should have told you he was still there and to come later. To me it's selfishness, kids get attached fast especially people who play with them and they remember more than you think. What's wrong with sitting in your car to avoid that? It's not about the father it's about the kid. I mean it's good you aren't mean to the kid and you play with him. This is just a sticky situation, especially if you guys are just messing around and this isn't going anywhere. Its more on her than you.

 

[KyokushinKarateMan]

Ninjas who are actually in this situation scared as hell to reply to the thread..
..don't want their absentee behavior examined..
don't want the questions flying as to why your child gotta be around another nucca in the first place..
But don't watch that, my brothers.. certain circumstances out of your control may be preventing you from being the 'ever present' man in your child's life. I understand. We understand.

But do tell us, what do you do in those situations? Or, how do you deal with it? I've always wondered as well..

I put myself in that situation and I can only see myself going ballistic

 

[Uncle Kingpin]

If your not with the woman anymore, you dont have any say over what she does. The best thing to do is not get a bopper pregnant in the first place. Not every single mother is a hoe, and not every single father is a deadbeat. I would proceed with caution because her rules may not be his rules. Honestly, she shouldnt be bringing men around her child unless yall are serious so i have to question her judgment.

 

[I'm Billy FUCO!!]

This situation is exactly why I'm still planning to have my kids with a WIFE. So my ass will be the main male figure around them, and I don't have to worry about some abusive drunk/pervert pedo getting in contact with them, because my baby mama suddenly don't know how to pick a man

Yes, I realize the possibility of divorce and that situation happening as a result ANYWAY......but I still have a better chance of avoiding that situation with marriage than if I go the baby mama/baby daddy route from the jump

 

[Brandon M.]

She should have told you he was still there and to come later. To me it's selfishness, kids get attached fast especially people who play with them and they remember more than you think. What's wrong with sitting in your car to avoid that? It's not about the father it's about the kid. I mean it's good you aren't mean to the kid and you play with him. This is just a sticky situation, especially if you guys are just messing around and this isn't going anywhere. Its more on her than you.

i dont think the kid is gonna get attached cause hes knows exactly who his dad is and his dad is way into his life, hes no deadbeat. He takes care of his kid well. He's not on child support or nothing like that

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

I mean, I have kids and all, but there is no new man. It's a shame when the assumption is daddy's not in the home. This can't be life.

 

[Brandon M.]

If your not with the woman anymore, you dont have any say over what she does. The best thing to do is not get a bopper pregnant in the first place. Not every single mother is a hoe, and not every single father is a deadbeat. I would proceed with caution because her rules may not be his rules. Honestly, she shouldnt be bringing men around her child unless yall are serious so i have to question her judgment.

i've know her since high school before she even thought about having a kid. its all good people involved in this.. I just dont want homie to be feeling uncomfortable when he sees me. this is a real world out here not fairy tale, i was having sex with her before all of this and then she moved away. she came back had a kid with him and this is where we are at.

 

[bl2k8]

This is why you get married first fukk if I'mma deal with other dudes around my seed and shyt

 

[Brandon M.]

I mean, I have kids and all, but there is no new man. It's a shame when the assumption is daddy's not in the home. This can't be life.

bruh just because u have a kid with a person that doesnt mean ur gonna be with them forever.