Do you consider emotional attachment considered a strength or a weakness?

[NoirDynosaur]

Been pondering about this quote lately

Question is, do you perceive emotional attachment as a strength or weakness?

When people are attached to a person, place or thing, they cling onto that entity like it's their whole identity. But when their identity gets challenged, they feel threatened or emotionally injured because of the attachment to that entity. If they weren't dependent, would they still feel the same way? Think of that

When a person is attached to a person, they're delivering 100% commitment. But when the person they're attached doesn't give them what they want in return, the love turns into hatred. Honestly, that what turns me off from getting into relationships or even getting married. Knowing that a person can inflict you mentally/financially/spiritually is why I mostly avoidant. I just love from a distance. It's like a psychological game of chess -- making the right moves puts you in the right direction; making the wrong moves gives you a bunch of L's.

Most people want you to conform to their standards, to change into their ideal fantasy, to be like them -- its validates them. If you don't, oh god, hell breaks loose lol. If you're lucky, someone will give you the freedom to be who you are. That's rare though.

Do you think its possible for a person to love someone without fully attaching to them? Like in a casual manner?

Possible that attachments can be healthy without feeling hurt or damaged?

Should we read people before we jump into relationships to prevent wasting time?

Just something to think about

 

[Coco Loco]

How can it be a strength? Once the person place or thing is dead/gone, that person is going to be a wreck. The most important thing a person can do is love someone else without losing who they are

 

[Crude]

Unless you are a full blown psychopath you don’t go through life without forming an emotional attachment to someone.

For most people it’s to their parents or people who raised them initially then later they may build those connections with a romantic partner and/or their children if they decide to have some.

Humans aren’t designed to be robots operating in solitude. Emotional connections and bonds are important to natural human development.

We were designed to be social and have bonds with others and although that can be exploited and used against us by someone with ill intent that doesn’t make the person weak in my opinion.

If you don’t have something that you are willing to die for then you probably never lived a life of fulfillment.

 

[SunZoo]

I think before you can truly have that conversation, you have to understand the difference between ATTACTHMENT and CONNECTION.

Connection is the most powerful, most important stregth mankind has. That is what people call 'god', the awareness of the connectivity between you, the divine and everything in between.

While the two words can seem similar if not be considered interchangable at first glance, you can only really 'attach' two things that are at any other time seperate. The reason why it's the root of suffering is because presupposes that you are seperate from that thing you want, love or need and thus have to grab, hold on tight and hyper focus to keep it within grasp.

Where as connection is natural, neutral, stable...and essential to the human experience. So people retreating into solitiude in order to keep from getting attached to this or that thing for whatever reason are only doing half the work. Living life from the inside-out allows you to actually connect with your loves, wants and needs in a way that doesn't cause you to suffer.

 

[Paradoxx]

How can it be a strength? Once the person place or thing is dead/gone, that person is going to be a wreck. The most important thing a person can do is love someone else without losing who they are

It can be a strength, people who are attached to their communities or towns, and want better for them, strive to do exactly that. Usain Bolt has a strong attachment to his home country of Jamaica , it’s why he trains and does business there.

A lot of black people in America don’t have a strong attachment to the community, causing the mass stagnation. Bright black men and women leave to go elsewhere, leaving the rest to just stay as they are…

 

[Coco Loco]

It can be a strength, people who are attached to their communities or towns, and want better for them, strive to do exactly that. Usain Bolt has a strong attachment to his home country of Jamaica , it’s why he trains and does business there.

A lot of black people in America don’t have a strong attachment to the community, causing the mass stagnation. Bright black men and women leave to go elsewhere, leaving the rest to just stay as they are…

I see your point. I was only thinking in terms of people or tangible things. I can see a community or town/city.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

In a relationship sense I see it as a weakness. Anyone that has had a bad breakup and been down bad can see what attachment and dependency can do to the mind. Like @SunZoo said, connecting is in my opinion more beneficial and flexible with life.

Attached means you’re TOO dependent on the outcome of a situation. With that knowledge we know that ALL things come to an end in one way or another so therefore it makes no sense logically to be attached to something.

Awareness of self is important.

 

[Diondon]

Literally the basis of meaningful relationships
The caution should be wariness of who you getting attached to
and are the sentiments reciprocated in kind

 

[Lord_nikon]

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

I can't answer that question. But to the question of "how do I become 'strong' ?"

That answer isnt being "heartless". Being heartless these days means putting up a facade, fearing being emotionally scarred. Protecting these emotional scars from getting deeper

It's normal to care for people. Healthy empathy and boundaries is the answer. Vulnerability is strength. Withholding your true feelings, fearing judgment and being hurt is weak

That's all I got

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

If you don’t have something that you are willing to die for then you probably never lived a life of fulfillment.

I'm taking this and quoting you in my future book


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