Do Handsome Brehs Actually Get Less Women?

[Apollo Creed]

There is a difference between “i cant get hoes” and “hoes dont approach me”

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

There is a difference between “i cant get hoes” and “hoes dont approach me”

Young bro don’t really approach like that these days

 

[FTBS]

The thing with women is that handsome is much more eye of the beholder and influenced by other factors (height, personality, presence, fashion, status etc). Chicks will think a guy is nice looking AND not their type. Chicks will pass on a guy that looks good but is dressed horribly or who has no confidence or doesn't fit her ideal. Now females can be intimidated or insecure or in their own head as well. Or she could think you are ugly. Honestly, there is no way of knowing and it doesnt really matter. If she aint wit it keep it moving.

 

[AAKing23]

Speaking from experience huh

These nikkas so corny, you not supposed to self proclaim yourself handsome or sexy, let your appearance speak for itself

 

[Apollo Creed]

Young bro don’t really approach like that these days

I don't blame em, most chicks are weirdos. That said lol Choosing not to "cold approach" still doesn't mean you don't interact with other humans. I think the main thing hurting people is lack of social circles in Modern times. Chicks don't have real friends and are in Facebook groups finding fake friends, and Dudes just don't have a life so they don't get out (usually because they are under employed or grew up sheltered).

In the past you could meet people organically through social circles ( the cold approach thing would then be a bonus for dudes about that life). But if you don't have friends, hobbies that involve other people, part of any organizations, etc. There is no circle to interact with people or be introduced to new people via friend of friend.

 

[god shamgod]

Dude sound like a victim when he’s just shy or “introverted”

If a chick likes you/finds you attractive they’ll let you know. There’s mad ways whether direct or subtle , he should know this by now

 

[Pool_Shark]

I don't know where I fit with all this. I'm introverted and also lack any kind of social skills when it comes to people. My brain goes completely blank a lot of the time.

At work I hear a lot of women say that I'm attractive or what they'd like to do with me, they tell my friends or mom but then they say I always look mad or like I'm in a bad mood. Most of the time I'm fighting my own battles in my head of working a job i hate and managing my social anxiety around so many people.

Then when I do try to step out of my comfort zone and say hi it's like i showed them a naked picture or something. So I'm like wth. Then my uglier fatter co workers are always messing with girls there. So I have no idea what's going on. Lately I've just said God whenever you say it's time I'll go cause I'm far past the point in my life where I want to be out chasing women but I also refuse to settle

 

[s@n]

I don't know where I fit with all this. I'm introverted and also lack any kind of social skills when it comes to people. My brain goes completely blank a lot of the time.

At work I hear a lot of women say that I'm attractive or what they'd like to do with me, they tell my friends or mom but then they say I always look mad or like I'm in a bad mood. Most of the time I'm fighting my own battles in my head of working a job i hate and managing my social anxiety around so many people.

Then when I do try to step out of my comfort zone and say hi it's like i showed them a naked picture or something. So I'm like wth. Then my uglier fatter co workers are always messing with girls there. So I have no idea what's going on. Lately I've just said God whenever you say it's time I'll go cause I'm far past the point in my life where I want to be out chasing women but I also refuse to settle

You need to run through a few average chicks to get your confidence up, my guy. Plan some dates on your terms. I really mean it. Gear some shyt around something you know you’re comfortable with; keep the stakes low so if she bounces or it it’s not working out, she can dip and you can still entertain yourself. Master your domain.

 

[AngryBaby]

I mean, it's true but this is like a false positive. Women just don't approach, even when they're feening for a dude.

No homo, but dude can probably get almost anyone he wanted if he just approached.

You'll still do 10 times better with women if you can hold a conversation. I got 2 homies in 2 different completely walks of life that not only gotten pretty much every woman they wanted when they simply just talked to the girl, but they actively get random women approaching them whenever we go out.

I don't even know if this was worth making a video for, it's not confirming anything not known. Someone else said, he's probably doing this to repopulate his DM's. Like imagine if you're out a the bar with dude and homie told you I'm having trouble getting ladies and this was his reason. You'd probably tell him stfu lol

Yeah like 3-5 years ago, I'd jump on the "women play more games w/ the dude" train or somethin.

But honestly, I never approached like that. I usually had women come up to me. But after being in a relationship for like 3 years, I kinda see...the power of approach now. That I could've really probably gotten some major baddies if I just went for it more myself. You have better..control over the type of chick you're dealing with, at least physically.

I used to look at the ugly dudes with the hot chicks, and think that thats what the women prefferred from a dynamic standpoint because of some sort of dad bod like mentality etc, and there is SOME truth to that, and there is some truth to women being more guarded in certain respects with goodlooking dudes.

But now I see those couples and just think "yep, he approached her" . Thats all it is.

The only things that happen to goodlooking dudes, is...you are more likely to be used for validation in certain ways. Or if you are a relationship guy, you could find yourself used for sex for better or worse. Also some chicks may go out of their way to reject or hurt your percieved "ego" in one way or another.

You almost have to be more...clear and direct about your intentions as an attractive dude, in order to not allow a woman to typecast you.

 

[Vandelay]

Yeah like 3-5 years ago, I'd jump on the "women play more games w/ the dude" train or somethin.

But honestly, I never approached like that. I usually had women come up to me. But after being in a relationship for like 3 years, I kinda see...the power of approach now. That I could've really probably gotten some major baddies if I just went for it more myself. You have better..control over the type of chick you're dealing with, at least physically.

I used to look at the ugly dudes with the hot chicks, and think that thats what the women prefferred from a dynamic standpoint because of some sort of dad bod like mentality etc, and there is SOME truth to that, and there is some truth to women being more guarded in certain respects with goodlooking dudes.

But now I see those couples and just think "yep, he approached her" . Thats all it is.

The only things that happen to goodlooking dudes, is...you are more likely to be used for validation in certain ways. Or if you are a relationship guy, you could find yourself used for sex for better or worse. Also some chicks may go out of their way to reject or hurt your percieved "ego" in one way or another.

You almost have to be more...clear and direct about your intentions as an attractive dude, in order to not allow a woman to typecast you.

I've learned the bolded the hard way. So many women that I have done something with or could've done something with and they later admitted, "I didn't think you were that interested." And in my head, "I'm like whytf you think I was trying to meet up with you."

So I get, I could be a little more assertive.

My thing is I never want to come off as thirsty. But like sometimes I be thinking chicks want me to basically whip it out with some of the responses I've gotten after the fact.

I cold approach on occasion, but unless I see a clear opportunity and some type of choosing signal, I typically don't approach.

It's the best way to control your options AND moreover, ain't no one approaching like that anymore so it works in your favor.

I also get the shyt that some women do too, like if you ain't giving the level of attention they want, they might fade off, sometimes that want to shut a nikka down to get an ego boost, some will shyt test you (and this is usually to see if you can go to the next level), etc etc.