Discuss: issues with your parents

[SeveroDrgnfli]

I was raised by a single mom and her sisters. shyt was wild. I remember sincerely hating my mom and my brother. I remember giving them looks that I hoped would cause them to burst into flames.

My mom adores my older brother. She told me in sixth grade she couldn't imagine me as an adult but she could imagine my brother as an adult. Id bring home straight A's and she didn't care. My brother didn't graduate high school and she gets excited about anything he does.

I remember graduating high school with honors and seeing all the families with signs for their kids and they got gifts and parties. I didn't even get a congratulations. I over achieved all of my life hoping my mom would say she's proud of me or approve of me. She never did.

My mom gave me a lot of gifts. I appreciate my education very much. But, I'm never satisfied with myself and it's been destructive in my life. I used to think I was fat. Even though I wasn't. I pushed my body to weigh 142 lbs, I'm 5'10 I was passing out all the time. My mom used to tell me I was fat.

My mom calls me to talk about my brother. It's never about me. It's always about him. I remember I was planning to have a baby. My girl was pregnant. We were so excited. I called my mom to tell her and she kept talking about my brother. So I never did. She lost the pregnancy. I wish I could have talked to my mom but again, it's never about me.

My brother tried to stab me to death with a knife. He's a lot bigger than me. I remember seeing blood on the wall and thinking he got me. I was screaming for my mom to call the cops and she didn't. I had to beat this man unconscious.

I still have a stab wound in my hand from where I blocked the knife with my palm. She was more concerned about the broken toilet and shower door he destroyed tossing me through them. Maybe it's because I'm adopted.

- I love My Mom

 

[Luna]

Why did your brother try to stab you?

 

[Splash]

Is your brother her biological child?

Sounds like she is aint too happy you are an overachiever while her son is

 

[iFightSeagullsForBread]

I could be a better son.

 

[Silkk]

Damn Em, but yeah i know you appreciate her raising you but it sounds like she doesn't love you as much as the older/real(?) son

Hit her with the

 

[GoldCoastSaint]

Damn OP you sound like my ex, except he was killed yrs ago... RIP E.

My mom and I no longer have a real relationship, had to limit her to 2 conversations/yr about 4 yrs ago and life has been soooo much better ever since.

People never understand when its the mother. They expect fukk relationships with fathers, but when its mothers they say shyt like, "Respect your moms" or "Why dont you fix y'alls relationship, you only get one mom." Im like, nah Im good, so they think its me smh.

 

[Boujee Bonita Braxton]

Damn that's sad....

I have major issues with my dad. He went to prison for doing some really sick shyt when I was 2 yrs old. He was released when I was 10 and then tried to force a relationship on me but I didn't know him.

Long story short he made a bunch of empty promises, found himself a wife with 2 kids of her own and replaced me. Then blames me every chance he gets for our lack of communication. nikka didn't even show up to my high school or college graduation nor my wedding...

It sucks when you can't get love from the one who helped create you.

 

[DIMES]

Throughout the struggle you still got love for the mother

Wow

 

[intruder]

I could be a better son.

I feel the same all the time.

She (my mom) and other people feel I'm a great son but I always feel like im not doing enough. That quote in the Sopranos about "noone wants to be a lousy son" is always in my head.

As for my dad I always feel like I failed him in many ways. I'm nowhere near the man he was or wanted me to be and I probably will never accomplish as much as he did.

Some people say I feel that way because both my parents always had very high expectations Of me and still do

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

Why did your brother try to stab you?

It's a long story. He and I have always had beef. I didn't say or do anything to him to provoke the attack. Lol which is rare. I was talking to my mom and he rushed me with a knife. I stopped talking to him years before that because it's not healthy for he and I to talk.

Is your brother her biological child?

Sounds like she is aint too happy you are an overachiever while her son is

Naw, we're both adopted. But he and I are related. We have the same mother and different dads. I think he was supposed to be the star. He a pretty light skinned mixed nikka.

Everybody loved him growing up. I was "John's little brother" until I forced my mom to send me to a high school two towns over. I knew I could be my own man in HS. My mom called me his name all the time.

Damn Em, but yeah i know you appreciate her raising you but it sounds like she doesn't love you as much as the older/real(?) son

Hit her with the

Man, I'm cleaning out my closet. Lol. I'm 26 now. My mom recently started being nurturing. It's awkward cause I don't need it now and I don't like it. I learned to not need it. It seems forced too. Like she knows I don't need her anymore and she's reaching out now cause she's old.

I Damn near started my own family. When my angels are affectionate with me it makes me uncomfortable and suspicious of them.
Working with kids has soften me up a bit.

I don't think she's a bad mom. I think she treated me like a chore like taking out the trash or washing the car. I had a good childhood though. I had to tell her to say I love you. She used to just hang up on me or say nothing when I left. I feel guilty when I ignore her. I owe her my life.

Damn OP you sound like my ex, except he was killed yrs ago... RIP E.

My mom and I no longer have a real relationship, had to limit her to 2 conversations/yr about 4 yrs ago and life has been soooo much better ever since.

People never understand when its the mother. They expect fukk relationships with fathers, but when its mothers they say shyt like, "Respect your moms" or "Why dont you fix y'alls relationship, you only get one mom." Im like, nah Im good, so they think its me smh.

RIP E. For real. Are you going to have kids? Do you feel like you have intimacy issues? My heart goes out to you, it's not your fault. We'll be okay my dear.

 

[Elle Driver]

It's great that you achieved so much despite your mom being childish and playing favorites. That's why a father is important, to be the disciplinarian and to be the calmer, cool head to knock some sense into y'all.

I had my issues with my mother as well, but we repaired that shyt, and I put her ass in check.

 

[Jack Skellington]

They were not and still not fit to raise children, me and my siblings have not turned out well(mentally)
If you have little to zero parenting skills - you should not have kids.

 

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@Still Ill FC

Some parents don't know how to give of themselves emotionally and make terrible mistakes. It's really hard to be a selfless loving parent for some people. Some parents SUBCONCIOUSLY love the child they perceive as weaker more than the stronger child. I'm very sorry for the pain she caused you. I just hope the love inside you keeps growing and growing because you deserve to be happy and be loved.

 

[YeLovesBoston]

Your mom is terrible. Cut that bytch off.

 

[Prynce]

I could be a better soon

And my mom could take me more seriously