Daycare

[JasonSJackson]

How many of you leave (or have left) your children in daycare with someone who is not an immediate family member (mother, father, grandmother, grandfather)? How old was your child when you first put them in daycare and why did you chose to?

How many of you who havent had children yet plan on leaving them in daycare?

Was talking to a homeboy and when this topic came up he told me his wife is a stay at home mother. Both he and his wife have master's degree's but when they had their first and only child his wife quit her job to be a stay at home mother. I thought that was beautiful. Why is this concept so far fetched to most "people"?

 

[little4209]

I'm sure marriage and all of that plays a part...most people aren't getting married to their children's mothers/fathers, so it's not really an option like it used to be...imo.

 

[beenz]

How many of you leave (or have left) your children in daycare with someone who is not an immediate family member (mother, father, grandmother, grandfather)? How old was your child when you first put them in daycare and why did you chose to?

How many of you who havent had children yet plan on leaving them in daycare?

Was talking to a homeboy and when this topic came up he told me his wife is a stay at home mother. Both he and his wife have master's degree's but when they had their first and only child his wife quit her job to be a stay at home mother. I thought that was beautiful. Why is this concept so far fetched to most "people"?

The concept is far fetched cuz most people need to work for a living and can't afford to drop everything to stay home full time with a kid. If u have the means to stay home, more power to u, but that is more of a luxury and not the standard.

Btw we put both our kids in day care at 2 months. The first went to a real day care. The 2nd went to a daycare owned by one of my wife's best Friends.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

How many of you leave (or have left) your children in daycare with someone who is not an immediate family member (mother, father, grandmother, grandfather)? How old was your child when you first put them in daycare and why did you chose to?

How many of you who havent had children yet plan on leaving them in daycare?

Was talking to a homeboy and when this topic came up he told me his wife is a stay at home mother. Both he and his wife have master's degree's but when they had their first and only child his wife quit her job to be a stay at home mother. I thought that was beautiful. Why is this concept so far fetched to most "people"?

I've never left either of my kids with a single person for daycare, but they have gone to day care centers. Luckily I've been able to support us, so my wife was able to stay at home with both of them until they turned 3. My daughter is now in the second grade, and my son just started daycare this year. My wife just finished school so she will be starting work in January. My son will continue daycare until he's old enough to start kindergarten.

I think it is important that the mother be there with the kids through the early years. The first couple years of a child's life are the most important and their biggest influences should be their parents, not a caregiver. Beyond that i think the advantages of having a stay at home mom diminish, and the woman would better serve her family by working.

 

[JasonSJackson]

I'm sure marriage and all of that plays a part...most people aren't getting married to their children's mothers/fathers, so it's not really an option like it used to be...imo.

marriage can make a difference, i agree, but there are alot of unmarried families that live together so the stay at home parenting could still be an option.

 

[JasonSJackson]

The concept is far fetched cuz most people need to work for a living and can't afford to drop everything to stay home full time with a kid....

thats the thing i think is a misconception...

I think its more of an issue of most people not being able to afford the nonessentials then it is of not being able to afford to support their family.

Btw we put both our kids in day care at 2 months. The first went to a real day care. The 2nd went to a daycare owned by one of my wife's best Friends

2 months is mad young.....having your baby in an outsiders hands longer then yours at that age doesnt bother you?

 

[beenz]

thats the thing i think is a misconception...

I think its more of an issue of most people not being able to afford the nonessentials then it is of not being able to afford to support their family.



2 months is mad young.....having your baby in an outsiders hands longer then yours at that age doesnt bother you?

Nope

They are 9 and 3. The 9 year old is in fourth grade and the 3 yr old is in pre school so my daycare years are over now.

 

[Rawtid]

I stayed at home with my daughter for the first 3 months or so, then my mom watched her until she was 2 1/2 - 3 years old and she's been in daycare since.

 

[ThiefyPoo]

She quit her job for one kids


If they got it like that

I understand when folks do it having 3 or 4 Kids but not 1.

Day care is hella expensive but leaving your child with a family member is always the best option. Sometimes your better off scraping the money up and paying a pro.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

I stayed home with my son until he was 18 months. He went to a daycare center.

Im actually against kids staying home. They need to be around other children of different personalities and ethnicities, to develop good social skills.

 

[JasonSJackson]

She quit her job for one kids

yea....

what's so about that?

Also, it has less to do with them having it like that then it is about them wanting to raise their child in a natural, healthy way.

Having someone else essentially raise your infant child so you can work is not natural.

 

[JasonSJackson]

Nope