Damn 6'5 brehs can't even get dates anymore :Edit this isn't me.

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Anyone else feel like dating has gotten unbelievably more difficult in recent years?

I just got stood up on a date.

The two two before this got cold feet and pulled out on the day - at least they had the courtesy to let me know. That's about as much as I can ask for these days.

I'm only managing to get about 1 in 10 women I talk to on dating apps out onto an actual date these days. Which doesn't seem that bad until I tell you that I'm extremely selective and only swipe right on about 3 or 4 women per week who I think I'll be compatible with and who don't look like window shoppers.

I'm also 6'5 fit and classically handsome with a very solid dating profile showcasing my hobbies and travels.

I'm respectful and engaging when I message women, much more so than the average guy from what I've seen and heard. I ask interesting questions, I weave humor into the conversation, I don't waste too much time talking online but I'm not pushy.

There really isn't a whole lot more that I can do to help my chances.

4-5 years ago when I was in my mid 20s my profile was worse, my personality wasn't as interesting, I was obsessed with working out, I had edgy humor, and yet everything was so much easier. Probably 50% of dating app conversations became real dates if I wanted them to.

Women actually pulled their weight and seemed dare I say enthusiastic to meet me. They even asked me questions unprompted from time to time. And they would even suggest meeting up. It feels like a fever dream now

My dating experience recently has been akin to Sisyphus pushing a ball of shyt up an endless hill, and Atlas condemned to carry the weight of the entire fukking conversation.

I refuse to drop my standards so if these means I only have a date or two per year then so be it.

It's also one of the reasons I've resorted to approaching women in person - no more paying to be ignored by women who had no intention of even meeting you.

Although offline dating seems to have gotten harder as well. I have had a few dates with women I met this way (at least you can be sure that you're actually attracted to them before you have a date)

**Disposable dating culture has been devouring itself** \- when everyone is cutting each other off at the slightest potential fumble fault flaw or foible in the interest of protecting their time and energy, it's no wonder that they're struggling to make meaningful connections. It also seems that ghosting and flaking has become so normalized that it's stranger when people actually communicate with you.

I've had women disappear when I take more than a few hours to reply, when I don't try to fukk them on the 2nd date... and these are women who claim they're looking for long term relationships, in their late 20s who should be more mature than the women I was meeting up with 5 years ago.

(then it seems like some guys can get away with murder once they're in a relationship but that's another topic)

If women have gotten collectively burned out with dating apps then where are they opting to meet guys, because it sure as shyt doesn't feel like things are any easier in real life.

In fact it feels harder than ever to connect with women at bars or festivals these days - I remember 10 years back walking up and chatting to anyone about anything, that just doesn't really fly these days. I hardly even see guys approaching women anymore either.

If they're deciding to do their dating purely through mutual friends then I guess I'm out of the running.

Anyway as I said, I'm a tall, good looking, charismatic guy so If I'm struggling I can't imagine how tough things must be for under average guys, unless they're willing to drop their standards entirely.

I haven't dropped my standards but I have dropped my expectations to nothing so I'm pleasantly surprised by anything. It's a bit sad that it's come to this but there are only so many times you can be disappointed after getting your hopes up before you adapt accordingly.

I'm actually considering waving the white flag and giving up for a while. I don't think I'll meet anyone when I stop looking for it - I ran that experiment and I didn't have a single date for several years, but it's taking a heavy toll on my mental health now. It's just not fun anymore

Have I just had bad luck or have you noticed a shift in the dynamics as well?

What happened?


 

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Grow a beard and get a passport and find a feminine woman outside of this country. Western Women are not worth it.

I saw a tweet from a man who lives in Mexico city and it said he went on a date with an American woman who moved there because her boyfriend opened the car door to get his parking ticket from the machine and it gave her the "Ick" so bad she left the country. that's the level of stupidity you're dealing with.
 
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"Anyway as I said, I'm a tall, good looking, charismatic guy so If I'm struggling I can't imagine how tough things must be for under average guys, unless they're willing to drop their standards entirely."

He is judging himself in that regard, and that may not be what anyone else sees. If he is having trouble, with those claimed attributes of his, then the truth is more likely that he does not fit the attributes he claims he has.
 

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I'm respectful and engaging when I message women

When the problem is right in your face.

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I was going to suggest OP go on the pop the balloon show but he got the post from reddit :mjgrin:

Location matters, breh probably needs to move to a new city
 

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See, young breh...


I ain't much older than you, but abstinence wave has made me older and wise to the game.
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Your problem is you ain't true to y'self. You true to the game and the game is to be played by playas, but as a wiser, older retiree once said, he told me:
Playas can be played too.
See, you had sauce then:
4-5 years ago when I was in my mid 20s my profile was worse, my personality wasn't as interesting, I was obsessed with working out, I had edgy humor, and yet everything was so much easier. Probably 50% of dating app conversations became real dates if I wanted them to.

Women actually pulled their weight and seemed dare I say enthusiastic to meet me. They even asked me questions unprompted from time to time. And they would even suggest meeting up. It feels like a fever dream now

You missed what was special 'bout ya original sauce back when and went against type.
Now you reminiscin' by the telephone tryna figure out the next move.
If the game is for score and all you care about is scoring, you blind to the mistakes you make and you lose.
This why referee is key.

You got caught up in the game chasin' women and lost y'self. And now you only seein' you off balance, not ten toes down and now wanna find out what's wrong with them... nah, duke... what's wrong with you? Chasin' women has never been a prosperous prospect with a good ROI. Scarier than losing money, you got ya soul snatched and you lost y'self in the waves of the punani tsunami echo chamber of narcissistic social media reflection and gaslighting.

You probably switched ya vibe to attract women who would not have been fukkin' with ya real self and now you seein' you been lied to by liars, but you gotta see how you lied to yourself.

Me? I stay on my dolo.

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Or dating is not something that's 100% in your control because the person you are talking to can harbor feelings that you will never know.

People obsess over feeling control. It's often an illusion. Jeff bezos is a divorcee. George Clooneys previous relationships failed. Prime minister of Canada who is the complete opposite of Trump and Biden got left.

Halle berry is single. Mya is still on the market. Sanaa lathan has a ton of failed relationships.

It can happen to anyone. It doesn't matter how tall you are, a woman isn't obligated to like you. It doesn't matter how fat the ass is or how premium your surgeries were a man isn't obligated to seek your attention and lavish you with gifts and outings.

Sometimes it's just pure luck. Pieces of shyt are out here on their third wife while there are loyal kind hearted men loved by their friends and family that can't even get a text back. You just recognize it's not the right time, place, or person and just move on. Life's too short to get hung up on one aspect of it.
 
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