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So the other day I took my sons and their 2 cousins to the park. I sat in the car and watched them play. It was 90 degree's this day. The oldest cousin who is 9 came back to the car and asked me permission to take off her shirt since it was so hot out, she says she has a training bra on. Typically parents shut little girls down immediately without second shot but I like to think of myself as a lenient thoughtful parent.
My first thoughts were, damn why do girls always got to show off they bodies when they go outside. I ask her how much of her stomach does it show? I forgot what she said but I determined not enough and said no because I had a visualization of too much skin being exposed. She's dejected and goes back to playing.
Little while later, I look up and see that she took off her shirt anyway. I was going to say something but after further inspection, I determined it was nothing wrong with it. Honestly, she looked no different from my 8 year son when he's in a beater or has his shirt off. I know pretty much every adult would quickly say a little girl playing in her sports bra is inappropriate but I realized it's actually we the adults who are being inappropriate. It never crossed my mind till then how she really felt, hey it really is fukking hot out here, it must be really uncomfortable to play in this weather with multiple layers of clothing.
This is the arguments I hear
Little girls want to grow up quick, there's perverts out there, let kids be kids when it's regarding girls. But I have never once heard anyone say that about boys when they take off there shirts. It's actually celebrated. I've come to determine it's actually the adults in the wrong who are looking at the girls as adults. When kids see kids doing something wrong or what they deem inappropriate, they are quick to tell but not once did my sons come up to me and say "so n so took her shirt off" because they were to busy having fun being kids.
I want to hear you guys thoughts because maybe I'm looking at this wrong.
My first thoughts were, damn why do girls always got to show off they bodies when they go outside. I ask her how much of her stomach does it show? I forgot what she said but I determined not enough and said no because I had a visualization of too much skin being exposed. She's dejected and goes back to playing.
Little while later, I look up and see that she took off her shirt anyway. I was going to say something but after further inspection, I determined it was nothing wrong with it. Honestly, she looked no different from my 8 year son when he's in a beater or has his shirt off. I know pretty much every adult would quickly say a little girl playing in her sports bra is inappropriate but I realized it's actually we the adults who are being inappropriate. It never crossed my mind till then how she really felt, hey it really is fukking hot out here, it must be really uncomfortable to play in this weather with multiple layers of clothing.
This is the arguments I hear
Little girls want to grow up quick, there's perverts out there, let kids be kids when it's regarding girls. But I have never once heard anyone say that about boys when they take off there shirts. It's actually celebrated. I've come to determine it's actually the adults in the wrong who are looking at the girls as adults. When kids see kids doing something wrong or what they deem inappropriate, they are quick to tell but not once did my sons come up to me and say "so n so took her shirt off" because they were to busy having fun being kids.
I want to hear you guys thoughts because maybe I'm looking at this wrong.