Coli Parents Help

[JayStarwind]

How do you deal with a child, a girl specifically, who is disrespectful (rolls eyes, body language, answers"what" etc.)?

My cousin is 11 and my mom and I are co-parenting. She isn't disrespectful all of the time but she will have an instance every now and again.

 

[Luke Cage]

Flick her earlobes hard af.

 

[Standing on business]

When she does it take away something she loves like her iPad or phone.

 

[The M.I.C.]

Boot camp.

 

[RhodyRum]

How do you deal with a child, a girl specifically, who is disrespectful (rolls eyes, body language, answers"what" etc.)?

My cousin is 11 and my mom and I are co-parenting. She isn't disrespectful all of the time but she will have an instance every now and again.

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[Wildin]

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You fukk up you gotta get the

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[Rockstar Mom]

Depends on how bad it is. At 11, majority of “attitude” is just pre-teen hormones and growing up. I have an 11 year old and man, I be ready to uppercut him at least 3 times a week.

But I’m swift with the consequences. I don’t spank him anymore(I personally feel spanking don’t “work” on older children).

What’s her currency? My sons currency is his electronics. Rolling eyes, talking back, stomping your feet = PlayStation gets unplugged, phone gets confiscated. TV stays, but that’s because my kids share a room. So that means he has to sit through only watching baby shows since my youngest is only 3.

More often than not, he doesn’t give me any problems. He just has his moments like every kid does.

 

[RhodyRum]

That's for foreplay.

You fukk up you gotta get the

bet you won't do it again. This is a tool for those with short attention span, difficulty remembering things, general memory issues.

 

[Wildin]

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[JayStarwind]

Depends on how bad it is. At 11, majority of “attitude” is just pre-teen hormones and growing up. I have an 11 year old and man, I be ready to uppercut him at least 3 times a week.

But I’m swift with the consequences. I don’t spank him anymore(I personally feel spanking don’t “work” on older children).

What’s her currency? My sons currency is his electronics. Rolling eyes, talking back, stomping your feet = PlayStation gets unplugged, phone gets confiscated. TV stays, but that’s because my kids share a room. So that means he has to sit through only watch baby shows since my youngest is only 3.

More often than not, he doesn’t give me any problems. He just has his moments like every kid does.

It's not that bad at all in my opinion but as I said, my mom disciplines her and that in itself is another issue. My mom believes her way of rearing (getting in my cousin's face, yelling, spankings, etc) is going to fix her issues and I have to constantly tell her that what she's doing isn't helping. I'm on the same wave as you, just take whatever my cousin likes away, but my mom gets in her "ways" sometimes. What I see as minor or just being a preteen my mom sees 100% disrespect and acts accordingly.

 

[The God Poster]

Introduce her to the world's most efficient attitude adjuster

This usually works if its done at a young age(not all the time)

Pulling a belt on a kid at that age who ain't never got it won't end well

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

It's not that bad at all in my opinion but as I said, my mom disciplines her and that in itself is another issue. My mom believes her way of rearing (getting in my cousin's face, yelling, spankings, etc) is going to fix her issues and I have to constantly tell her that what she's doing isn't helping. I'm on the same wave as you, just take whatever my cousin likes away, but my mom gets in her "ways" sometimes. What I see as minor or just being a preteen my mom sees 100% disrespect and acts accordingly.

Yeah, that old-school doesn't work.

You need to find out what makes her tick and use some strategy. I don't have an 11 year old my boys are younger, but I do know that hitting them where it hurts is far more effective than just yelling.

Also followup it up with care, it sounds soft as fukk but you gotta understand her age and she's just at that stage bruh

 

[JayStarwind]

Yeah, that old-school doesn't work.

You need to find out what makes her tick and use some strategy. I don't have an 11 year old my boys are younger, but I do know that hitting them where it hurts is far more effective than just yelling.

Also followup it up with care, it sounds soft as fukk but you gotta understand her age and she's just at that stage bruh

I'm right there with you. I have to find a way for my mom to get on the same wavelength.

 

[murksiderock]

Well spanking definitely ain't the answer, at any age really...

One of the most critical skills we miss as parents is being able to relate to our children on an interpersonal level. We forget how we were at 11 (or whatever age), and we forget how our peers behaved when we were that age. So we don't even try to relate to them and alota times our responses to difficult situations end up being too much emotion, not enough reason...

I'm gonna have my struggles too, my girls are only 2 and 8 months, and they be trying me lol. But I will always try to maintain this perspective and I think that'll help me maintain responsible decision making in regards to discipline and other parenting issues...

 

[JayStarwind]

Well spanking definitely ain't the answer, at any age really...

One of the most critical skills we miss as parents is being able to relate to our children on an interpersonal level. We forget how we were at 11 (or whatever age), and we forget how our peers behaved when we were that age. So we don't even try to relate to them and alota times our responses to difficult situations end up being too much emotion, not enough reason...

I'm gonna have my struggles too, my girls are only 2 and 8 months, and they be trying me lol. But I will always try to maintain this perspective and I think that'll help me maintain responsible decision making in regards to discipline and other parenting issues...

Congratulations bruh. The thought of 2 and 8 month olds already trying you

You're literally thinking what I'm thinking. Before I respond to anything she says I always think "how was I at ___?" I'm going to continue working on it though.