tbh, he probably wont get any hate for that observation because it's pretty accurate as far as what people impress upon others.
but, i do feel like its up to a man to figure out what he wants as it's part of knowing himself. you can't really teach another man what to like, they either experience and decide or it's impressed on them so they develop an attachment to the idea.
as for women, i believe they definitely get the opportunity to understand how to treat a man as long as the man isn't unstable because that can fukk up a woman's idea of expectations and understanding. some won't take the time, though. or they attempt to overstand in a sense and not just straight up be sensible when seeking understanding