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Banned
I've played this in my head several times and I'd like some perspective. There's a bit of a story here.
I booked a dude for a show (comedy) and the day before, he called me and asked if he could crash. I put people up often enough so I agreed. When he showed up, he told me he had been in a car wreck. The car was scratched up and he was disoriented. As soon as he got in the house, he fell asleep, despite just saying he was planning on staying up, eating, etc. I assumed this was part of the crash so I kept an eye on him until he woke up a few hours later.
Next day, once we get up, we talk about different black issues (bill maher, cosby, murders, etc). This is where it started to go south. This young man was continually telling me I'm confused and raising his voice because I disagreed with him on certain things. I made it clear one time, we can have a conversation but if you're going to call me a c00n or a sellout, then you can leave. it subsided only slightly.
The show ended up not working out and I still paid this person for the travel. He was here a little over 2 days. Still borderline calling me a tom because I don't want to talk about bill maher all day. In addition to that, he refused to shower or even be quiet while I was sleeping. He then went on to criticize what I ate and me having drinks in my home. So in the end this escalated to telling him to leave. It wasn't pretty, as it ended with him outside in his barefeet and underwear. Luckily it didn't turn into anything violent.
So my question is really this: While I understand how racism affects us, isn't it a bit forward to scold someone after they put you up in their home? Like, if you had your idea of blackness/code, isn't that somewhat suspended in reference to the person hosting you? You can always sleep in your car or, like an adult, get a room. Have you ever had a situation where someone felt entitled to your property just because they are black (or rather, the idea they have about their blackness)?
I booked a dude for a show (comedy) and the day before, he called me and asked if he could crash. I put people up often enough so I agreed. When he showed up, he told me he had been in a car wreck. The car was scratched up and he was disoriented. As soon as he got in the house, he fell asleep, despite just saying he was planning on staying up, eating, etc. I assumed this was part of the crash so I kept an eye on him until he woke up a few hours later.
Next day, once we get up, we talk about different black issues (bill maher, cosby, murders, etc). This is where it started to go south. This young man was continually telling me I'm confused and raising his voice because I disagreed with him on certain things. I made it clear one time, we can have a conversation but if you're going to call me a c00n or a sellout, then you can leave. it subsided only slightly.
The show ended up not working out and I still paid this person for the travel. He was here a little over 2 days. Still borderline calling me a tom because I don't want to talk about bill maher all day. In addition to that, he refused to shower or even be quiet while I was sleeping. He then went on to criticize what I ate and me having drinks in my home. So in the end this escalated to telling him to leave. It wasn't pretty, as it ended with him outside in his barefeet and underwear. Luckily it didn't turn into anything violent.
So my question is really this: While I understand how racism affects us, isn't it a bit forward to scold someone after they put you up in their home? Like, if you had your idea of blackness/code, isn't that somewhat suspended in reference to the person hosting you? You can always sleep in your car or, like an adult, get a room. Have you ever had a situation where someone felt entitled to your property just because they are black (or rather, the idea they have about their blackness)?
his ass would've been outside the minute after he raised his voice the first time on some tough shyt. He was out of line and disrespectful, if he felt you were that much of a c00n he should've gone to get a motel or hotel room 
). I guess he felt that I wasn't black enough because my girlfriend is white. lol...
don't sleep at our house then.
Apparently that's just business. Everything else is oh so pro black. But I ain't eem gonna take it there in the root.