She doesn't get the fact that when minorities make racial jokes like saying negative things about white people, are in fact racist and won't have a problem telling you they are.
This girl may not be racist but would want the freedom to say whatever she wants about any race that annoys her without coming off as racist.
She doesn't understand that the people that do that, that are of a different race, still get looked at as racist for speaking their mind.
I'm not mad at the woman though, she just has to not let it bother her so much, that's all.