asking because i'm starting to believe people think those who are modest in describing or talking about themselves are really just showcasing the way they feel about themselves?
what y'all think?
A Girl that is humble/modest vs. low self-esteem. How clear is the difference?
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asking because i'm starting to believe people think those who are modest in describing or talking about themselves are really just showcasing the way they feel about themselves?
what y'all think?
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I hardly think anyone on the coli is in any position to start diagnosing this sort of thing.
But let's start off with this...
1. Everyone is insecure about something. Everyone.
2. The more you know about yourself, the more you know what you don't know. And as such, you learn how much more you can grow as a person. That sort of realization can breed modesty. And when explaining it to others it can seem like low self-esteem, when it really is not.
But let's start off with this...
1. Everyone is insecure about something. Everyone.
2. The more you know about yourself, the more you know what you don't know. And as such, you learn how much more you can grow as a person. That sort of realization can breed modesty. And when explaining it to others it can seem like low self-esteem, when it really is not.
NobodyReally
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Rocket Scientist
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A woman that is openly insecure and admits to having low self esteem is to be avoided
i'm probably not your target audience
...but in general i have good eyes
i can see when someone has money
even if they try to hide it, they will have on good eyeglasses and nice shoes
not that 2 pairs for $40 shyt from eyeglass express
like if someone is a lawyer or a cpa??
they just lowkey say what firm they're with and keep it moving
obviously they're not sweeping the floors or working in the mailroom
people can recognize the situation
on the other hand, if someone is a "writer" or "artist" or "web designer"
that can be anything from a blogger to the best seller list
so maybe it is appropriate to brag a bit more
mention a published book, or what gallery is showing your work, or a site you own
just to clarify you aren't...well, a do-nothing loser
on the other hand, bragging about yourself all the time becomes delusional
it's best not to say XYZ- instead, just point to 10 people who will say it for you
if people aren't recognizing your main traits, then maybe they aren't as well-established or verified as you think
sorry, not trying to talk tough
...but in general i have good eyes
i can see when someone has money
even if they try to hide it, they will have on good eyeglasses and nice shoes
not that 2 pairs for $40 shyt from eyeglass express
like if someone is a lawyer or a cpa??they just lowkey say what firm they're with and keep it moving
obviously they're not sweeping the floors or working in the mailroom
people can recognize the situation
on the other hand, if someone is a "writer" or "artist" or "web designer"
that can be anything from a blogger to the best seller list
so maybe it is appropriate to brag a bit more
mention a published book, or what gallery is showing your work, or a site you own
just to clarify you aren't...well, a do-nothing loser
on the other hand, bragging about yourself all the time becomes delusional
it's best not to say XYZ- instead, just point to 10 people who will say it for you
if people aren't recognizing your main traits, then maybe they aren't as well-established or verified as you think
sorry, not trying to talk tough
NobodyReally
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asking because i'm starting to believe people think those who are modest in describing or talking about themselves are really just showcasing the way they feel about themselves?
what y'all think?
I agree with @Raul, there are people who display modesty because they know their place in the universe and how much they don't know, not because they don't have healthy self-esteem. But I also think there are modest and humble people who think very little of themselves. I think the key is how they talk about themselves and others. There's a difference between degrading yourself and being humble and modest. If someone is constantly putting themselves down and lifting others up, especially when its not warranted or deserved, they have unhealthy self-esteem.
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What that thang smell like
Someone with low self esteem constantly seeks validation. They have no internal compass that tells them what they are doing is right or fulfilling. They are lost and always searching.
Someone who is modest accepts their strengths and weaknesses and strives to do better with a purpose for progression. They know when to speak, and when to listen.
Someone who is modest accepts their strengths and weaknesses and strives to do better with a purpose for progression. They know when to speak, and when to listen.
KinksandCoils
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Being modest and humble is completely different from having low self esteem. I'm not sure what the person being a girl really matters. The same would apply for a guy.
