You’re absolutely right.
This is what I was talking about earlier when I said there are A LOT of women in our community who fall into this category and it’s because no one kept it real with them about how this shyt goes!
I already mentioned my uncle pulling me aside and telling me to keep it fit because I’m “young and beautiful”. Message is= “No man that YOU want will want a big girl. Don’t get fat”.
People don’t keep it real with the women in their families and then the years slip by as they watch other women get attention, dates, relationships, and marriage.
It’s sucks but I’ve said it before: there’s a reason the beauty, fitness and (plastic surgery) industries are multi-billion/trillion dollar industries! All this shyt is built around women trying to look good for men. Yes, character and personality are most important, but you do women a disservice when you aren’t real about the world.
When I was younger my physician once said to stay fit because when you’re walking down the street, a man can’t see your personality; he sees your “backside”. That’s what pulls him in and theeeeeen he can figure out your personality. But if he isn’t getting your number if he isn’t attracted to you.
Been in the gym consistently since then.
It’s as simple as that
But people don’t want to have that convo with their families.
When you open your eyes and look at the world at face value, you see EXACTLY what it is.