"She needs to be comfortable with me being in charge" Under the correct circumstances, i'll co-sign this. Feel like the man needs to have his head on straight, and take into account both sides and has a sense of morale/cognizant thinking, what women wouldnt be with that? It imo takes confidence and a certain level of trust that whomever you choose to be with will respect,honor, and protect you
"Men and women have forgotten their roles"- i've said this before elsewhere and i agree. Through Time, many outlooks and situations have made folks expect too much from each other that doesnt require much communication i think. Now everybody and there momma is meant to please you . Once you out for self, out of sync w/ no foundation being a relationship with a man or woman doesnt always aid that.