KravenMorehead™
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As a man: Pursuing financial/developmental success before a permanent relationship, or vice versa?
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Heafcliffe
Hope there's puddin' in the clink...
In my 20s, always strived to reach that proverbial level of success (both financial and professional) but never reached it. Was successful but not to the level I wanted.
Now that I am in my 30s, I married, had support, matured and was able to find those level of success. Some of which I didn't know existed.
Like anything, it depends on the person though.
Now that I am in my 30s, I married, had support, matured and was able to find those level of success. Some of which I didn't know existed.
Like anything, it depends on the person though.
Shameonyou
All Star
financial success only because if shyt fukks up at least u have your own.....but in terms of searching for someone that actually likes you for you...its better if you aint got shyt to truly see
"back then didn't want me now im hot all on me"
its a tough question. I and I think most dudes are big on loyalty and want a day one chick but the odds of finding one are low. Gotta get that bread
on one side you don't want to settle for something and find out you could've done much better after gaining wealth, assets or whatever.
but you definitely don't want to attain all this, and start side eyeing every girl you come across because you figure they wouldn't be with you if it wasn't for your success or would've dissed you back then. Most girls want the finished product though and it's just too hard to succeed in relationships when you're young so you don't really have a choice. I guess you just have to downplay all your successes and stay low key when pursuing women later on so you can see where their heads are at
its a tough question. I and I think most dudes are big on loyalty and want a day one chick but the odds of finding one are low. Gotta get that bread
on one side you don't want to settle for something and find out you could've done much better after gaining wealth, assets or whatever.
but you definitely don't want to attain all this, and start side eyeing every girl you come across because you figure they wouldn't be with you if it wasn't for your success or would've dissed you back then. Most girls want the finished product though and it's just too hard to succeed in relationships when you're young so you don't really have a choice. I guess you just have to downplay all your successes and stay low key when pursuing women later on so you can see where their heads are at
Mr Hate Coffee
Veteran
Financial success first. You'll be a better boyfriend and your woman will respect you more.
If you meet a girl early in life, at least be on the right track and dating someone on your level.
If you meet a girl early in life, at least be on the right track and dating someone on your level.
Not necessarily financial success, but financial stability.
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philmonroe
Superstar
Regardinng bold its possible but it has to happen when your younger before all that money stuff starts mattering. Most people don't want to do,that though. One of boys I grew up with been with his girl in some way since they were in junior high and are still together but we all know that's not the norm at all.
very true. when you're 23 years old and shyt...you can't really fault a woman for wanting to choose a guy with a car, his own place and all that if he got it like that over a dude with JUST potential / a plan.
another thing though is theres always the risk that after dating a girl either you may be separated by going to different schools, career pursuits, or just wanting to experience dating/sex with other ppl. most ppl aren't mature enough at that young age M or F to do real long term relationships
There has to be a balance….I don't feel like I did it all wrong, and in some ways lucky I did it this way, but I'm 29, and I spent so much time so deep off in that money chase, I couldn't or didn't care about anything else, and now I'm trying to catch up with that relationship side of things, feeling like I missed out..but, the again a lot of people I know got sidetracked, and derailed with their dysfunctional relationships or relentless chase of p*ssy, and now that has caught up with them.
